A little reminder for women~

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is
Don’t stay because you think “it will get better”
You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man’s behavior.* Change comes from within.
Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…
Even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else’s man.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending….
Compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships…
There is nothing cute about baggage…
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you….
A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals….
Look for someone complimentary…not supplementary.
Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him – he takes it for granted
Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man.
Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.*
Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful:
You should know that:
You’re the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he’ll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he’s not the only one.
They’re all watching you, so you have a lot of choices.
Make the right one.
Ladies take care of your own hearts….
Share this with other women and men (just so they know)…
You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

Up and at ’em~

Good morning and happy Saturday…I sit here having read through me emails…some not all…read my newspapers..some not all….and having my coffee…which seems to be on the weaker side this morning.

I stayed up until 3am reading one book and thinking finally I can go to sleep. Ha! I started another book and ended up staying up until 4:30 am….and I finally ended up with at least a couple of hours of sleep. Boy # 2 is in the shower, I’m waiting for him to get out so I can jump in there next and then get on with getting myself presentable for the outside world. Yes, you are reading correctly…today I am stepping/rolling my way out into the real world…or at least the outside world. I am thinking of taking the boys out to lunch and then grocery shopping. By my estimation I won’t be ready to leave the house until noonish or a bit after…making it rather timely for lunch.

...what hurts the most??? ~~

Given the nature of the books I have been reading lately I am inspired to write a few short stories revisiting parts of my life that included episodes of domestic violence….I will be calling this series “The Ex Files” very clever right….lol….I thought so….it will be an amalgamation of my personal experiences steeped with those of others that I was very close to. The parallels are uncanny in some instances….but the patterns of abusers and abusees are almost always the same…it’s like the same behaviors are either taught to the next generation or there are some secret classes being held somewhere in some secret location.

Okay…the bathroom is now mine…shower time. TTFN

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