There will always be a LIE in believe an OVER in lover an END in Friends an US in trust an IF in life

There will always be a LIE in believe an OVER in lover an END in Friends an US in trust an IF in life…

Isn’t that just so true? And then how it all flows together….

Tomorrow I will be calling Spine Austin and setting up my appointment for my 6 month check up on my fourth surgery….today also marks the one year anniversary of my 3rd surgery….it’s also the anniversary of an other unmentionable now very questionable act….I should have already scheduled this visit…but I’ve been putting it off, I’m scared of what the x rays may uncover….I have a nagging feeling that things aren’t as healed as they should be…or worse that I may need another procedure…I don’t think I would be mentally prepared for that kind of news….there is no way to prepare for that and I’m afraid that I would be sent over the edge…yes I have been teetering on the edge…the edge of reason, the edge of sanity, the edge of madness….I just need a little push and I’d be over….

I’ve been on a reading spree, pretty much laying off the TV, not spending much time online either….so that has me all disconnected…..my goal is to get back to “normal” next week….whatever that really means anymore…oh and of all the books I’ve read in the past few days…Brenda Novak’s The Perfect Couple was the one that kept me on the edge….and also struck a chord…the description of how the husband sucked the wife into a life of depravity by being a controlling asshole was spot on….I can relate to the wife, how she got to where she was…not that I think I could have ever gone to the dark places she went to in the name of love….but the disease to please, the doing anything/everything to keep her husband happy and in love with her, pretty sad…too many times I had well-meaning people tell me to go along with something that was so against my nature to keep a man with me….so not worth it…for me it just isn’t a way to live…if a person cannot accept another persons differences then it is time to move on…using manipulation, coercion, threats or violence isn’t a healthy path to a long-lasting loving healthy relationship…and as my grandma used to say…”It is better to be alone than in bad company”

so anyway….not sure where this rambling nonsense was supposed to go…so just file under randomness….

11 thoughts on “There will always be a LIE in believe an OVER in lover an END in Friends an US in trust an IF in life

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  1. “….if a person cannot accept another persons differences then it is time to move on…using manipulation, coercion, threats or violence isn’t a healthy path to a long-lasting loving healthy relationship…”
    i love this!!! just had a conversation with a dear friend tonight who is going thru some rough times and i was trying to give her some good advice and this puts it in a nut shell!!!!! Thank you!!! 🙂

  2. Ruby you know I can relate to how you’re feeling. I agree with you that it is better to be alone than in bad company. Sometimes alone can be a good thing, but too much of it can make you crazy. Just remember that you have friends who are always here for you and love you just the way you are….you beautiful woman you!
    As for you doc appt., I will be praying that all goes well and you DON’T need another surgery. Keep us posted.
    If you ever need anything, you know where I am. xoxo

  3. Ruby,
    I needed to hear this right now. While I’m not in a male/female relationship that’s abusive or violent, I am in a friendship with someone who is emotionally abusive. I’ve recently decided that it’s time to move on… Thanks for sharing your ‘randomness’. 😉

    (((Hugs))) oxoxox

  4. Robin…you are welcome, and it certainly does apply to any relationship that is toxic….I’ve made it a point to get out of as many of those as possible and stay away from that nonsense, life can be stressful enough without all the other garbage.

  5. “….if a person cannot accept another persons differences then it is time to move on…using manipulation, coercion, threats or violence isn’t a healthy path to a long-lasting loving healthy relationship…” is missing something key. In a relationship, the two people are not perfect. They are both on a journey which sees them building and growing in character. Look for a partner who will support the things which are good in your life and help you overcome the bad. Don’t look for someone who accepts you and everything that’s different about you. Look for someone who accepts YOU but is self-motivated to help you become a better you.

    My 2 cents.

  6. I really needed to read this. Thanks Ruby. I am saying goodbye to a “friend” of 18 years… at first I was unsettled, then sad now just getting on with myself.

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